Do you ever find yourself trying to blame your life shortcomings on family, co-workers or life events ? Do you find yourself saying "If only" or "What if". I know that I personally find myself getting down on my life from time to time. "My business is taking over my life" echoes in my head. I often find myself complaining that I am "too busy", "too broke" or "too stretched". Who’s fault is that? Is it me?
Lately I have started to take the approach of not talking about stuff that isn’t productive. It helps quite a bit when I find myself on the sympathy train. I am the single biggest success catalyst to positive change. It is all in my attitude and how I choose to perceive the world and what is happening around me.
So here are some tips to consider:
- Listen to how you talk to yourself and others. What does it sound like? Don’t be judgemental or hard on yourself about what comes up – just take note of it.
- Life is too short to sweat the small stuff and living your dream shouldn’t be put off. I read an article that said that upon last reflections before dying the most common regret is " I wish I done what I wanted for myself more and less of what I thought was expected of me".
- Don’t judge yourself or others. I talk to A LOT of WOMEN and what I find sadly common is how judge each other. I really try to stop myself when I go to do it. Why should we assume the worse in people? Is because we are sensitive and get hurt easily? Why can’t we assume the best and give people the benefit of the doubt? I can’t imagine that most people are intentionally rude. A recent article I read indicates that women are more likely to be bullies in the workplace then men…. something to think about. Let’s be nice to ourselves and others.